- do my homework to learn fundamentals about marginalized groups' experiences
- amplify marginalized people’s voices
- believe marginalized people's life experiences
- understand intent vs impact of what I say
- be ready for the mistakes I will make
- accept that the people that my mistakes hurt may be angry
- accept that they don’t owe me an explanation of why it hurts (see doing homework)
- not “expect a cookie” for working on diversity and inclusion (pic)
- understand that being an ally is not a yes/no condition, but requires a level of proactivity
- find someone besides marginalized people to help me explore my feelings about allyship
- learn to "check my privilege" and understand that I have privilege even if I had a hard life of poverty and abuse.
If these ideas interest you, please follow the links above and come see me present at Agile and Beyond 2016 this May.
